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Goodbye Mr Hefner

Good bye Mr. Hefner ,

Yesterday I read that hugh Hefner , founder of playboy magazine died at 91. Without thinking I posted the New York Times post on my Facebook wall, I added the comment rest in peace.

I did this without thinking , and I did this because this is who I wish to be ; a person who honors when life is ended , no matter whose life it is,

Yet, as the day went on I felt a growing anger. And I felt it important tomy being to say some more about this matter , this man and how he and other aspects of the so called sexual revolution caused damage to the young woman I once was.

It’s was already my sad fate to,have been raised in a household brimming with sexual, emotional and spiritual abuse. And then, I has the puzzling experince of coming to womanhood during the time where I was told that my freedom depended upon my sexual availability . Saying no was a sign of being repressed , or worse yet controlling. My value and my empowerment came from having all the sex my partner wanted , having no personal needs except to say yes to and have as much sex as possible .

Certainly wanting closeness , communication or commitment was uncool and should be avoided by the emancipated woman …

It was all rubbish certainly, and for my soul a perpetuation of the sexual abuse of my childhood.

Playboy magazine , cosmopolitan , and other publications felt it their duty to inform me that orgasims were my right and that I should demand them. No where was information on the importance of communication, empathy, true passion and trust that was required for two human beings to explore, care and value each other enough that orgasms are the natural result.

Mr Heffner , in my opinion has been the spokes man for immature broken masculinity. From the immaturity comes that false sense of privilege and anger when one doesn’t get their way. It’s one of the seeds of what we now call rape culture .

I’m speaking here about my journey . The point of any revolution is freedom . This means that everyone has the freedom and support in exploring what the words sexuality , gender, and orientation mean to us individuals , and the then the courage to reach out and communicate who we are to our peers with out judgement or injury .

The US still has much healing to do from its repressed and shaming Puritan beginnings . It is my opinion that the preaching of the Playboy man or the Cosmo girl hasn’t helped this healing . I am heart warmed as i recall the compassionate therapists, and grounded spiritual leaders and precious sexual partners , who assisted me in the development of my own sexual unfolding , and I rejoice in my absolute pleasure and acceptance of myself and my own sexual and emotional energy and power .

My wish today is that all people have the same opportunity.

Samsarah Morgan C2017

The erotic has been used against women. It has been made into the confused, the trivial, the psychotic, the plas- ticized sensation. For this reason, we have often turned away from the exploration and consider- ation of the erotic as a source of power and information, confusing it with its opposite, the pornographic. But pornography is a direct denial of the power of the erotic, for it represents the suppression of true feeling. Pornography emphasizes sensation without feeling.

~Audre Lorde

Oakland Breastfeeding Festival & Latch On 8/27/17 3-6pm Lake Merritt !

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Oakland Better Birth Foundation & Bay Area Birth Justice Fairs and Forums Present:

In celebration of National Breastfeeding Month and Black Breastfeeding Week – Let’s show up and represent for Oakland and our Breastfeeding, Pumping, and Milk Sharing Familes!

Bring kids, and food to share.

Lake Merrit’s “Kids’ Kingdom”. We will picnic near the Saturn Playground! The playground is on the lake side of Bellevue Avenue (between Staten Avenue and Perkins Street).

((Look for balloons))

We will share food, hear speakers and have a one-minute nurse-in in solidarity with nursing familes worldwide!

Watch this invite for more information as it becomes available!

See you there!

All are welcome!

This is a pot luck ! Bring something to share – children are welcome , especially nurslings!

This is a FREE event but your donations are welcome to further the work of the Oakland Better Birth Foundation. http://www.oaklandbetterbirthfoundation.com

Facebook event link for more details!

https://www.facebook.com/events/1328993543879974/?ti=icl

https://www.facebook.com/events/1328993543879974/?ti=icl

Integrity

Even though this means I won’t gain a client, I gain peace of mind each time I suggest that a healthy pregnant woman reach out to our local, free standing birthing centers and home birth midwives for their pregnancy care. Its simply a matter of integrity. I am devoted to pregnant people – and thier babies. They deserve the care that offers the best possible outcome.

Samsarah Morgan , Doula 

And Executive Director of Oakland Better Birth Foundation 

http://www.oaklandbetterbirthfoundation.com